Saturday, 25 October 2008

Welcome to the world Mahe Finn


I've been meaning to do this for weeks, well three weeks and four days to be exact, since little Mahe was born.  Well, finally I'm getting round to it, writing his birth story, and then, just for balance, and because I didn't do it before, I think that I might do Kai's too, although that's two years, three weeks and three days overdue!
Despite feeling for the last couple of months, that this baby might actually be early, instead of overdue, the 23rd of September came and went and still no sign of anything happening, apart from the Braxton Hicks contractions that I'd been having for weeks.  I went to see the consultant on Friday morning, and he booked me in for an induction the following Thursday, I was really worried that he might have put me in for Kai's birthday on the Tuesday, which was the last thing that I wanted, but fortunately he didn't.  He also gave me a sweep, and said I was already 21/2 to 3 cm diallated, so things were looking good.  I fully expected to start in labour in the next few hours or so!  Needless to say I didn't and come Sunday morning I was feeling very dejected, as 48 hours had passed since the sweep and nothing had begun. I was beginning to feel really quite desperate, as I really didn't want to be induced, or have the new baby on Kai's birthday, and not only that I was feeling HUGE and so uncomfy!
Later that day, after having a nap, I started to get contractions, I'd had about three, twenty minutes or so apart before I let myself believe that things might be happening.  They got gradually stronger and closer together as the afternoon progressed, and after tea Mike took Kai over to my Mum and Dad's in case we needed to go into the hospital later that night.  As it was I'd watched Heartbeat, and Poirot was just starting when I decided that it was maybe time to go into the hospital, as they were about five minutes apart.
They checked me out when I got to the hospital, and I'd reached 31/2 to 4 cm, but obviously I still had a long way to go.  As I'd had a c-section last time, they were keeping a close eye on me, so they kept me in rather than send me home.  Mike got to go home for some sleep, but I just spent a couple of hours doing crosswords and looking at those trashy magazines that I only read when I'm at the doctors or dentist or such like.  After a few hours or so, I called the midwife and I'd progressed to around 5 cm and they moved me down to the delivery suite, as there was room, and called Mike back in.
It was about 5am on the Monday by this point, and I was hopeful that things would progress fairly quickly and I'd soon have my baby.  In case I had to have a drip for some reason, they came to put the thing that they put in your hand in my hand (really complicated way of putting that and I have NO idea what the technical term for all of that is!)  Only I have apparently quite small veins in the back of my hand, and it went in but came out the other side and ouch did it hurt!  They had to put it in my wrist instead and the back of my hand swelled up, and every time I moved my arm or hand it really ached.  I know that considering what else was happening, it would seem strange to complain about the pain from that, but really I think that it was one of the most painful things that happened that day.
Unfortunately when they checked me later, I hadn't progressed any further, so they decided to try and rupture my waters to get things moving.  Not that that was a problem, I was just disappointed that things hadn't got any further on their own.  A couple of hours later they checked me again, and as I still hadn't progressed they discussed the next step.  Basically I could either go onto a drip to move things along, or have a c-section.  I still really really wanted my vbac, although I'd been there for such a long time that I have to admit that I was tempted.  They put me on the drip, and although I'd used nothing up to this point, I asked for some gas and air, as the contractions were getting to me a bit.  A little while later the consultant came in, (not my consultant) and made it clear that he thought I should be having another section, they decided to give me until 4pm and then monitor things again. 
All morning, and through three shift changes of midwives, they had been really impressed that I'd not needed any pain relief, and I was just sitting there doing my crosswords, watching tv and being generally quite cheerful.  They increased the drip every half hour, and as they put it up to the strongest dose, I'm afraid that I had to ask for something a bit stronger to help with the pain.  They gave me a choice of an epidural, which I didn't want, Pethadrin, or something beginning with M which was similar to Pethadrin, but didn't last as long or effect the baby,  I decided to go for that, as I only had under two hours to go until they would send me in for a section if nothing had happened.  They gave me a jab in my thigh, about half an hour later, and it kicked in another twenty minutes after that.  It didn't really do much for the pain, just made me fel really light headed, so I felt a bit disconnected from the pain so it was easier to deal with.
Half an hour later I suddenly got this overwhelming urge to push, it took me totally by surprise, and I quickly pressed the buzzer to call the midwife in.  I'd just about convinced myself that I was going to have to have another section, and was feeling pretty low about it all, so I couldn't quite believe what was happening.  The midwife checked me and I was all ready to go!  For some reason I fully expected this bit to take ages, but it really didn't, with every push the midwife kept saying right this next one will be it, but I thought she was just saying that.  Less than half an hour later he was born!  The head arrived, and I was really quite surprised how easy the rest was, he just slipped out with the next push, and was born at 8 minutes past 4 in the afternoon, 17 1/2 hours after I got to the hospital. The midwife put him on my chest, I'd been so convinced that he was going to be a she, that I was quite surprised to see his boy bits!
I fed him almost straight away, and he had a good feed, which I was so pleased about.  He looked just like Kai did, newborn, except he was a pound lighter and had black, curly hair.
After the event Mike told me that when his head appeared, he was listening to the midwife who said that I had to really concentrate on the next push, and take it slowly.  He'd decided to really concentrate on what was happening, so he could see everything that happened.  I'd taken a look at the baby's head and asked if all was alright, I'd been quite surprised as I hadn't realised that he would be quiet at this point, and have his eyes closed.  The Midwife said he was fine, but Mike was thinking, oh no, there's something wrong, she's just saying that.  He says that he thought, right don't panic, and looked at the heart rate monitor.  As this was still going strong, he relaxed as the baby must be fine, only to realise that Mahe was on my chest and he'd missed it while he was thinking all of that.
After they'd sorted me out downstairs, they sent me for a bath and then put me in a wheelchair back to the ward.  They handed me Mahe and were about to wheel me out, when suddenly everything started to go black and I realised I was on the verge of passing out.  I quickly handed Mahe back to them while I recovered, didn't think it was a good start to drop my baby.  I was soon feeling better though, and able to settle down in the ward for a well deserved relax.




Tuesday, 19 June 2007

We've moved!

Well I've finally got the internet back, why does it take these companies so long to get anything sorted??  Any way after two weeks or so, I finally have access to email and the like again, yay!
Our new house is lovely, three bed rooms, and it has a utility room, bit sad I suppose to get excited about that, but it's nice to have more room.  I hate moving though, it's soooo stressful!  Least it doesn't seem to bother the little man, he has been chilled about it all, and has settled into sleeping in his own room with no problems at all.
His current latest trick to to stand up all of the time, all he wants to do is to have me hold onto his hands while he pulls himself up and then stands.  I don't mind, as it is very sweet, but he has to stand rather than sit, just when I would like him to sit so that I can get on with some other stuff.  He does attempt to walk a little bit, but he's quite a way off that just yet, thankfully!!
Any way just a quick one this time!  Have so much still to sort, there are so many different places to let know my change of address too, it's just a nightmare!



Wednesday, 30 May 2007

Been a long time....!

I've been completely useless at writing anything on here lately, sorry!  But just for a brief catch up, I've been very busy with work lately and of course looking after my little man.  Not only that but we've both been in the local paper, hope that this is big enough to read:


And then because we are clearly the only mother and baby that they know about at the paper they phoned us for another quote a few weeks later!  So here we are again:


I'm afraid I'm going to cheat a bit today, and not really write much myself.  Have to go feed the little man, just wanted to share our 'fame' with you though!




Wednesday, 18 April 2007

Stand up for yourself!

My little man seems to be growing so fast at the moment!  Look at him here standing up, well nearly, he does need support and doesn't stay up right for vey long, but at six and a bit months I think that it's very impressive.  Not sure if he should be standing up of course, but sometimes you try and sit him down and he's having none of it!  He puts his legs rigid so that he's standing!


He certainly seems impressed with himself in any case!  I think I've said before, I'm torn by wanting him to grow up and do things, and not wanting him to grow up at all.  Very silly of me I know, but I can't help it, it's so exciting when he does something new, but the thought of him being all grown up is so sad, I know that there is a long way to go yet though!!

It's been another beautiful few days, we even had the first BBQ of the summer on Saturday, and I've had my legs out in the sunshine, I do only have one skirt that I can fit into though!  Have to do something about that, not sure what!
Kai is giving me a few minutes peace at the minute, I'm supposed to be writing flyers, posters and the like for my cloth nappy venture, but I've got a bit distracted by writing this!  Just have to show you how Kai is sleeping at the moment,







he has taken to moving round lots before he drops off, and sleeps on his side now, all curled up.  Went in to check on him a minute ago and he was like this, totally turned round in his cot!  Crazy little man!
Hmmm, really better get on now, while I have a few minutes to myself I suppose!


Saturday, 14 April 2007

What a week!!

I'm just about dead on my feet at the moment, I've been working so much this week that it's just crazy.  So far this week I've worked at Shugborough on Saturday and Sunday, had Monday off, worked at Marstons on Tuesday night, Shugborough again on Wednesday and Thursday, Marstons Thursday night and then I've got another Marstons tonight!
Of course the big advantage of working tonight is that I get to have my half of Peddi, if only I wasn't driving and could have more!
I do love my two jobs though, I just wish that I had a bit more time to spend with Kai and I also want to get my cloth nappy thing going properly.  (www.teamlollipop.co.uk is who I 'work' for) I have to get some posters, flyers etc out there and drum up some trade/interest. 
I don't really have the energy for it now, so instead I'll just post a little pic of my little man...





Friday, 30 March 2007

Hungry little man

I've been playing the feeding Kai game again today, I still can't seem to fill him,


but never mind.  He seems to be more interested in trying to feed himself at the minute, which he doesn't quite have the coordination to manage all of the time yet.  Still the only way around it would be to pin his hands down and stop him from trying to grab the spoon.  He gets in enough mess doing this, I just wonder how much mess a child doing  baby led weaning gets into??  I would have liked to try it, but  as I was topping up with  formula, (grrrr) then it didn't seem like the best plan, maybe next time!  As it is I'm just trying to come up with different things to feed him, I'm looking forward to that time in the future when he just eats what we eat; how much easier will that be?
At least he is gaining weight well now, up to 14lb10oz at the last weigh in, and 69cm, which means that he is in the 9th centile for weight and the 91st centile for length.  No surprises there then, looks like we might have a tall one on our hands!

For some reason the other day he seemed to find me feeding him the funniest thing ever, and he was giggling nonstop with every spoon full that I put into his mouth.  I'm not sure what caused it, but something definitely tickled him, either that or sweetcorn and carrot is just funny?  I love these feeding photos though!



Busy Busy Busy

I've been just about run off my feet lately, what with going back to my old part time job (Marstons) starting a new one (Shugborough) and starting my nappy advisor thing.  Well I say started that, really all I've done so far is get a few posters out there and start spreading the word, I hope to start actually doing it soon though....  I really need to find some Mum's (and of course Mum's to be) in the Staffordshire area that might be interested in learning a bit more about using cloth nappies on their babies.  I'm working on it anyway!

My other new job is going really well, and I'm loving it.  So far I've done a bit of 'dressing up' in the servants quaters which was great, and then yesterday I was at the farm in the dairy.  Spent the day making cheese and chatting to the visitors.  In many ways it's a bit of a dream job for me, I've never yet visited somewhere along these lines without imagining myself as a member of the household, and now I get to play at being a dairy maid or servant.  As jobs go, I suppose it's terribly self indulgent, almost as bad as working in a brewery and talking about my favorite beer....  I'll have to try and get a photo of myself all dressed up to show you, but I may have to wait until someone comes to visit, I can hardly stay in period while having a camera on me!
I'm in again next on Saturday, but working on Essex bridge, a little ticket office for people who walk in, rather than come via the main enterance, to be honest working out there is hardly as exciting as the other work, but I suppose that a job can hardly be all fun, so I don't really mind, wouldn't want to do it all of the time though.


I started back at Marsons on Monday, I was worried that I wouldn't remember a thing, but it all came flooding back to me.  Well almost all, I'm going to have to 'revise' my notes a little and see if I can't make a few more facts and figures stick.  There were one or two points when I was in full flow, and I realised I couldn't remember a few bits, but I bluffed my way through it, and they all said that it was very interesting. Mind you, that was after they'd had their free samples...